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1953 May 2023

Elizabeth M. Startup

March 27, 1953 — August 27, 2023


Elizabeth M. Startup, fondly known as May, was a beacon of light and love to all who had the privilege of knowing her. She passed away on August 27, 2023, at the Westchester Medical Center, leaving behind a legacy that will forever be cherished. May's life was characterized by a remarkable devotion to her family, an infectious joyfulness, and a affection for nurturing those around her.

Born on March 27, 1953, in Jersey City, NJ, May was the beloved daughter of Melvin and Sarah (Towne) Conklin. She grew up alongside her siblings Susan Conklin, Edward Arthur McFarland, Sarah Alice Elston, Margaret Marie Dugan, and Harry David Conklin. From an early age, it was evident that May possessed a remarkable ability to provide care and support to those she loved.

May's innate spirit of compassion shone brightly through her role as a mother figure to her nieces and nephews. She took on this role with boundless enthusiasm and dedication, always ensuring that they felt loved and protected. Her selflessness knew no bounds as she cared for them throughout their formative years. May's nieces and nephews held a special place in her heart, and she enriched their lives through guidance and unconditional love.

A happy-go-lucky soul by nature, May brightened every room she entered with her infectious laughter and radiant smile. Her vibrant personality had the power to uplift even the heaviest hearts. Her unique zest for life was contagious; she had an uncanny ability to find joy in every situation. May taught us all the importance of cherishing each moment and finding happiness in the simplest of things.

Beyond her devotion to family, May had a deep appreciation for the arts. Her love for music resonated within her soul while drawing allowed her creative spirit to soar. May's incredible artistic abilities were a true reflection of her inner beauty and creativity.

May had a profound love for animals. She found solace and companionship in the company of her furry friends, and they brought her immeasurable joy throughout her life. Her compassion extended beyond human beings, embracing all creatures great and small.

May's memory will forever live on in the hearts of those she leaves behind. She is survived by her sister Susan Conklin, who was an unwavering source of support and camaraderie throughout their lives. May's nieces and nephews, Cindy Arnott, Candy Rose, Tammy Rhea, John McFarland, Elizabeth Arnott and husband Joseph Smith, Jessica Arnott, as well as several other nieces, nephews, great-nieces, and great-nephews, will carry on her legacy of love and compassion.

May's passing leaves a void in our lives that can never be filled. However, we find solace in the knowledge that she is now reunited with her parents: Melvin Conklin and Sarah Conklin; her husband Wesley Startup and her siblings: Edward Arthur McFarland, Sarah Alice Elston, Margaret Marie Dugan, and Harry David Conklin. Their reunion brings bittersweet comfort during this difficult time.

Elizabeth M. Startup touched countless lives with her kindness, warmth, and unwavering love for family. Her memory will forever be etched into our hearts as a reminder to treasure every moment and to approach life with tenacity and joy. Though she may no longer walk beside us, May's spirit will continue to guide us through life's joys and challenges.

A graveside service for May will be held at 11 am on Tuesday, September 5th at Fantinekill Cemetery.

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Arrangements are under the guidance of Loucks Funeral Home.

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Tuesday, September 5, 2023

11:00am - 12:00pm (Eastern time)

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